Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Presidential or personal?

So I guess John McCain is now touring parts of the country that are significant to his personal life. Because he wants the country to see more of his personal side.

Are you frickin' kidding me? I mean do we reaaaaaaaaaaallllly need to see more personal aspects of people in politics? Hasn't it become more of a soap opera of sorts? Who shagged whom, who showed whom their thong, who slept with a prostitute, yada yada yada. And one candidate here has his ENTIRE family on his poster. So what, having a big family (I thought only he was running and not his whole family) makes him a better candidate? Doesn't it just mean that he knows how to have sex a lot? He can't even speak to his parenting ability because his wife is raising the kids while he's running for office.

I mean if we want drama or to know more personal stories, we can watch tv or read a good book. Heaven forbid we instead expect leaders to give us LEADERSHIP. At the very least they should provide more interesting drama, then maybe I'd be more motivated to keep up with the news.

So you don't want to hear about MY drama, how I am or am not getting laid by a worth it or not-so-worth-it bloke? Well at least I'm not expected to develop a reputation that worthy of being presidential.

Wait, so I COULD run for president...

12 comments:

Kenike said...

if you were running for the president, wait, what color ribbon does that go with?

snicker.

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

huh?

Archangel Gabrielle said...

I have long held the opinion that John W. McSame is too ugly to be predident of the United States of American Idol. I don't think that even his BBQ eating media lapdogs can help him with that one.

BE said...

"So what, having a big family (I thought only he was running and not his whole family) makes him a better candidate?"

Yes, because ordinary US citizens can relate to the reality of having a full time job and a family...?

"Doesn't it just mean that he knows how to have sex a lot?"

Or that he doesn't know how to use contraception...or doesn't want to use contraception...in which case, it might actually mean he knows how NOT to have sex a lot...

"He can't even speak to his parenting ability because his wife is raising the kids while he's running."

I'd love to believe that, but I don't even know if I can believe either one of them takes that active a role...they may have hired help for the rearing of the kiddos...

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

Actually, I'd rather see them hire help than his wife take on all the responsibilities. I think one of the biggest gender stereotypes that the feminist movement is still battling is that it's expected for the wives to stay home. No doubt that housework is work, but it is definitely a thankless job which, in our current world, we don't really have a way for putting a true price on. So then when couples get divorced in non-commuity property states, the women get screwed. By hiring help, you are placing a value on the work (based on our society's definition of "value"), more women are out effecting change in the community, and the women are getting personal power which can allow them to effect that much more change. Check out the book "Get to Work" by Linda Hirschman...she has some holes in her arguments, but makes some very good points and gives women concrete ways in which to keep their professional identities after marriage.

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

In that book, she also emphasizes why women should work even when they don't have to. Otherwise, what message does that give mothers who HAVE to work? That they're bad parents?

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

argh, I haven't found a way to edit a comment, if at all possible. So this is a continuation of my last couple comments:

Because does a parent always have to be home in order for good parenting to happen? Plus it's a choice between work and family that women are expected to make, not men. Then that keeps us, partiularly in male-dominated professions, from having more women out working to represent women overall. I realize getting alternative means of care could be a very very difficult thing for new parents to do, but I just don't see why it's at least something we can't strive for.

BE said...

Felda, I'm not saying the mother should stay home and raise the kids. I think a father could do so. Clearly, in this case, he's probably not. I DO believe kids are better off having a stay at home parent of whichever gender, if that's a possibility, and I bristle at the thought of a FEMINIST (Hirschman) talking about what women SHOULD do...that, to me, seems antithetical to the whole premise of feminism itself and if nothing else "shoulds" on women who freely choose to be stay at home moms. I would much rather my children be raised and cared for by me or by my husband than by hired help. And because I'm not certain either of us could do this full-time and leave the world of work to do so (which I would really love to do as a free choice), we will likely not have children. And if that makes me not a feminist, well, then I guess I've been mislabeling myself since my teenage years. Feel free to effect change in the community, but don't neglect the changes in your own home--this advice holds whether you're male OR female. Parenting is a responsibility best delegated to PARENTS. Don't want to parent? Then don't have kids!

Archangel, to play devil's advocate, how would you feel about someone saying Hillary is too ugly to be president? Because I have a hunch that many would view THAT as anti-woman. Just some food for thought.

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

BE, I hear what your saying and I see the validity in your thoughts. On some level it's something I still go back and forth on with my own philosophy. But at this point in time I mostly disagree with you and it'd be much easier to have the discussion in person than being able to type it all out.

cheers, Felda

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

I'll just add a couple things:
-This is one of those things where you could argue till you're blue in the face but you can't change someone else's mind about it if you come from differing value systems. And the value system can determine what the definition of parenting is, by whom it's done, and what type of life "work" is more "necessary" or "valuable." Or which people should be affected by others' "work."
-With that being said, some more food for thought: What does it mean for kids to be "better off?" And is reading them a story before they go to bed and making decisions that affect them not considered parenting? And the hired help would certainly not be doing all of the parenting but can provide logistical help is all. Or why can't mom and dad tag-team? And what about when they're old enough to be in school all day? Does someone need to be home then? Are they then not influenced by teachers most of the time as it is anyway? Would the parent who stayed home regret that they did not stay in the job force when the kids become independent? Many women at that stage have a hard time getting back into the job force with the loss of work experience, and often experience dissatisfaction that they didn't do more with their abilities, or just do something for themselves. I'd certainly advocate for stay-at-home dads because that tips the scale a bit and gets away from the gender stereotype, which is what my goal is. Last year there was a news segment about women having to make the hard decision to cut back work hours for their families. Not once was it mentioned how men might be able to give a little of their time so that the decision doesn't have to solely fall on the moms. And this is the 21st century.

BE said...

Felda, when you put those questions out there in response to my comment but say you'd rather discuss it in person than in this forum, I'm confused. I have responses to your questions that you put to me online rather than in person, but I also want to honor your wishes.

Felda, Jerry Seinfeld's Biggest Fan said...

yeah, it is easier to actually talk about it which we can do. I just wanted to throw those questions out there as food for thought while I was thinking of them. We can chat about it sometime if you like.